13 years old and dating
We are now hated - enduring deaths stares and silence.Uh, read the posts about a mom whose 14 year old is pregnant. I wasn't allowed to date until 16 and neither will my girls be. Later there was some kissing and flirting and light making out, but that was towards the end of high school. I had always thought you were a responsible person. Dating while under the eye of parents is the best way to keep things safe.13 is too young, though I was allowed to go on 'group dates' at 14 (but never actually did) Stay strong through the death stares and enjoy the silence while it lasts! We did not really date, but he was invited to our house a lot. If you do not allow them to date or have close friends, once they get out of your home, you will not be there to guide them. They may test you,, but always prove to them you were very serious about the consequences. I had to laugh about your comment "We are now hated - enduring deaths stares and silence." As a mother of three raised college girls, I had plenty of those stares.My son had a girlfriend by the time he was 13, my daughter was 14. I've already watched her flirt (quite skillfully) with boys her age, so I'm expecting this to happen early with her, too. I wasn't allowed to "date" until I was 16..even then, one or both of my parents tagged along. My 14 year old neighbor/babysitter talks about nothing but her boyfriend boyfriend boyfriend. She's hardly ever free to sit because she's with her boyfriend's family and away on all their church group's outreach things together.
More important than age is self-esteem, the ability to talk with their parents about any concerns, their ability to say "no" to things they aren't comfortable with, the ability to make good choices when choosing friends. It is your job to protect her and be her parent, not her best friend. Whenever I come home, there she is right after school until dark with her boyfriend until he wanders home when her parents get home. She's with her boyfriend all day long at school and after school, and I NEVER GO OUT!!! I know the movies is a far cry from this for you daughter, but still, you're right, it's too young.
The double date did not happen, and the stares & silence ended the next day. She will not want to wait two more years (or 3, whatever you are planning) to single date. Come in and out of the family room during their time together.
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